When I was a little girl, I loved watching Scooby Doo after school. Unfortunately, Scooby was in re-runs and you couldn't find Scooby toys anywhere. I wanted a Scooby doll or t-shirt so bad!
So, you can imagine how thrilled I am that Scooby Doo is coming back again! I have a second chance at loving Scooby, but I'm too old to buy myself toys. Right?
Every one of us has an inner-child that didn't get something they wanted or needed. It may seem foolish to your logical adult self, but the unfulfilled dreams and wishes of childhood stay with us as internal trauma and longing.
Often, we didn't let others know how badly we were hurt by not getting something we wanted or needed. Just like our adult selves, your inner-child carries wounds or grudges which stick with you and shape your view of the world. Some of your most significant destructive patterns and sabotages are directly the result of not feeling loved, heard, or valued in childhood.
Connecting with your inner-child can have an extraordinary healing effect. It requires a willingness to look within, replaying painful memories, looking at them with an adult perspective, and forgiveness.
Sometimes, our inner-child gives us a nudge to indulge in something that it wants.
When I was in medical school, I was having a particularly stressful week. I got the urge to head to the nearest Target and buy a brown teddy bear. Although I thought it was strange, I listened to my intuition. I imagined getting a bear that was about 12 inches tall, dark brown, and it had to be squishy and soft. I tried out a few bears in the toy aisle until I found the perfect bear. I took it home, cuddled it while studying for my latest round of tests, and named him Mr. Bear. Somehow, cuddling that bear soothed me on an emotional level. A few days later, I called my Mom to ask her if I'd ever had a teddy bear when I was little. She said, "Yes, you had this little brown bear that you would carry around. You called him Mr. Bear". What?! I had no conscious memory of Mr. Bear, but he was deeply buried in my subconscious. When I was feeling sad and needed some comfort, my inner-child wanted and needed Mr. Bear. I'm so glad I listened!
One of the many complaints of children is that their parents don't listen to them or take them seriously. As an adult, you have the ability to act as a parent to your own inner-child. If you didn't get the love, attention, or toys that you wanted, then you have an opportunity to remake your past. Try this inner-child meditation for soothing inner pain.
Get into a comfortable position either sitting or lying down. You may want to play some soothing instrumental music in the background. Imagine yourself in a beautiful place in nature where you feel safe and secure. Invite your inner-child to join you. Notice what she or he looks and acts like. Are they hurt? Scared? Hesitant to come to you? Invite them to join you and assure them that they are safe, wanted, and loved. They can sit across from you, beside you, or even in your lap. Wherever the child feels most comfortable. Ask your inner-child what she/he wants or needs. What does she/he have to tell you?
This is an opportunity for you to talk to your inner-child and help her/him release any fear, shame, guilt, or unhappiness. Provide them with the love that she/he feels was missing (and that you wished you'd had from an adult). Your inner-child can appear at any age. You may want to repeat this meditation multiple times to help you release trauma from different ages where you didn't feel safe or loved.
As adults, we're often advised or shamed into putting aside childish things. Sometimes, this is terrible advice! In countless stories, adults don't seem to have the same magic as children. It's because children have amazing imaginations and believe anything is possible. As we grow up, we become conditioned (or brainwashed) by the world around us, and we lose our natural magic a piece at a time. Then, it can seem elusive when we try to reconnect with it later.
If you're trying to figure out your purpose in life, reconnecting with your inner sparkle is an excellent place to start. Embracing and healing your inner-child gives you peace and freedom. If you're being nudged to do things like eat comfort food, buy toys, or find yourself waxing nostalgic for things in your childhood, then it's likely your inner-child wants to be heard. Allow yourself to color, play, draw, and create like a child. Trust me, you'll feel better!
Dr. April Darley is an expert at resolving stuck patterns of behavior through Neuro-Emotional Technique (N.E.T.). By identifying self-sabotaging behaviors, she can help you regain confidence, improve relationships, remove blocks to health, wealth and success in any area of your life.