I'm very passionate about making sure that women feel healthy, wealthy, and confident. Clearing out limiting beliefs about wealth and success help women reconnect with their power.
It's a common myth that women aren't as good with money as men. Some of this is from societal conditioning, but also from a lack of confidence in their own ability to manage money efficiently.
I can't tell you the number of times I've seen and read about women who give their money power away to others like husbands or money managers. Often, they're left scammed or devastated when their husbands pass away or their accountant is a cheat and runs away with their money. Since they gave up their power, they have no idea where their money is going, how much they really have, or how to manage it.
Since money blocks affect everyone, celebrities and regular people alike are prone to making common money mistakes. Remember, money doesn't fix money blocks! Musical artists Rihanna and T.L.C. are examples of women who let "men handle their money" and were taken advantage of when they discovered millions missing from their accounts.
Don't let tragedy be the reason you start tackling your money blocks! Here are some of the most common money myths that affect women today.
1) You should give your services/products away for free.
This is such a yucky one, and it happens all the time! Sadly, it's often other women that are asking you for discounts or freebies because it's such a common block with women. Women often feel guilty saying no, charging what they're worth, and are afraid of disappointing people. Unfortunately, a people-pleasing habit can keep you broke! Since we were children, we've been told that we need to "be nice". If we're not, then people won't like us and we'll be rejected. In order to avoid this kind of emotional pain, we're often guilted into going against our own best interests.
ACTION STEP: Think about a time when you agreed to give someone discounts or freebies because you were afraid to disappoint them, or felt guilty saying no. Why do you think you did it? What was the outcome? What do you wish you would have done differently?
2) Your work = your worth
It's not just women who are prone to this particular money block, but they often become trapped by it. When you meet someone for the first time, it's a common question, "What do you do?" Many women are ashamed by the answer if they don't think what they do is "good enough". Again, this belief has its roots in people-pleasing and low self-esteem. What you do for work doesn't equal the totality of your worth.
ACTION STEP: Make a list of your qualities, traits, and strengths that you're proud of which have nothing to do with your occupation.
3) Men are better with money.
That's total crap, right?! It's easy for me to say that out loud because it's logical, but there was a time that I believed it subconsciously. When I was growing up, my Dad was the one who did the finances. My Mom told me it was because he "had a better head with math". So, I often watched her ask him for money, or sneak purchases past him because he'd never approve. Have you ever hid how much money you spent from your spouse? If you haven't, then you probably know a woman who has! This belief is what leads women to give up their money power and independence in relationships.
I didn't realize that this money block was so huge for me until I was about to move to Texas. Before I moved, I imagined having a successful practice filled with clients who were successful themselves. The problem? The successful clients I pictured in my head were men!!!! In reality, men weren't my main clientele and never have been. I discovered a subconscious block that I didn't even know I had. Men were successful and women weren't. I was shocked and disappointed in myself! I logically knew that there were powerful and successful women out there charging what they're worth, but my subconscious had other ideas. You better believe I ditched that block as soon as I discovered it!
ACTION STEP: Can you think of a time where you gave your money power away? Do you believe that men are more successful than women? Try to find at least 3 powerful women that you admire and make a list of why you admire them, and what you can do to be more like them. How can you take back some of your money power today?
4) In order to be wealthy, you have to give up something you love.
This is another sneaky little money block. It's supported by common sayings like, "You can't have your cake and eat it too", or "You can have money or love, but you can't have both". Sayings like these only support the limiting belief that money= sacrifice. Many women don't pursue business, wealth, or success because of what they potentially may lose. For example, I used to feel that if I were successful then I would have less me-time. I love my alone time, and my subconscious created an all or nothing situation. I disempowered myself with this belief. I had to remind myself that I'm the boss! If I truly cherish my alone time, then I make it a priority and put it in my schedule. When I overcame this block, I realized that I didn't have to choose between happiness and money. I could have both! You can too because you don't have to sacrifice love, family time, alone time, or anything else just to have money. You really can have both if you give yourself permission and let go of any limiting beliefs about your success.
ACTION STEP: Make a list of things you worry about sacrificing if you were to become wealthy and successful. Give yourself permission to have money and happiness!
5) Powerful women are bitches.
I didn't know any rich or powerful women growing up, and the ones I saw on TV were terribly bitchy. I grew up in the 80's before reality TV, but there was Dallas, Dynasty, and Falcon Crest. Remember those shows? Yes, the women were incredibly wealthy, but boy were they awful! Unfortunately, that stereotype didn't die along with 80's TV and still persists today. Women are often portrayed as heartless, backstabbing bitches in the movies and TV when they're wealthy. If you're looking for role models, those ladies aren't it! When you refer back to money block #1, we want to be nice, remember? So, if your subconscious equates wealth with bitchiness, then you could be blocked from achieving it because then people wouldn't like you. If they don't like you, they may reject you and you'll be left alone. You don't want that, right? So, your brain throws up sabotages to keep you struggling.
ACTION STEP: Who are some wealthy women that you admire? What do you like about them? They can be women you know personally, or celebrities you'd like to meet. List out any subconscious blocks you may have about being nice and having money.
I believe that women deserve wealth, happiness, and success. Not only do we deserve it, but we're totally capable of having it. If you have any of the money blocks that I've discussed here, then you owe it to yourself to clear them out. When you clear out these limiting beliefs, not only do you benefit, but so do the people you love. You can do some amazing things with your wealth.
Are you ready to step into your most powerful self? If so, then schedule your appointment and let's clear out those money blocks today!
Dr. April Darley is an expert at resolving stuck patterns of behavior through Neuro-Emotional Technique (N.E.T.). By identifying self-sabotaging behaviors, she can help you regain confidence, improve relationships, remove blocks to health, wealth and success in any area of your life.