The entire month of January, you're probably going to see a million memes, programs, and ads about "following your dreams". It kind of goes along with the New Year, New You theme.
The wonderful thing about a new year is that we view it as an opportunity to change our behavior and become who or what we want to be.
Recently, I've been reading the book She Means Business by Carrie Green. In her book, she talks about how people can get some amazing ideas, but won't pursue them due to certain fears. She outlined 3 areas where you can kill your dreams before you really get started.
Dream Killer #1: A Lack of Clarity
I used to envy my best friend in Arizona because she had amazing clarity. Once she decided on a dream or course of action, then a very short time later she had all the details mapped out while I struggled to see past the idea! I used to think that clarity was an amazing gift, but I've since learned that it's a skill you can develop.
In order to develop clarity, you've got to know what it is you want down to the smallest detail. This sounds daunting if it's an area where you struggle. The trick is to choose one thing, and describe what you want in great detail. Then, keep expanding it. For example, if I ask you what your dream car or home is, could you tell me? It's not enough to say "It's a beach house". Fill in the details! Where is it located? How much did it cost? What color is the outside and every single room? How many bedrooms/bathrooms? One-story or two? How are you going to decorate it? etc.
I could keep going, but I'm sure you get the idea. If you haven't thought about your dreams in this kind of detail, then there's room to improve in the clarity department!
Dream Killer #2: A Lack of Confidence
Once you've worked on (or mastered) Clarity, then the next potential dream killer is confidence. When you've outlined WHAT you want, then you need to start drawing up action plans to make it happen! It's a rare dream that appears out of nowhere without some kind of effort from you!
A lot of dreams fail because people are unwilling to do what it takes to achieve them, or to step outside their comfort zones enough to make some forward progress. As part of your process, plan some baby steps to achieve your goals. It's ok if it takes a while. There's no such thing as "wasted time". Everything you do (no matter how small) has a cumulative effect. Every forward movement is a victory! This is the step where Neuro-Emotional Technique (N.E.T.) can help you the most.
Dream Killer #3: A lack of Comprehension
When you're an entrepreneur or have some pretty big dreams, eventually you'll need to put those action plans in place. When you're just starting out toward your dreams, you'll probably have to take on tasks that you know very little about or that terrify you. If time or your financial situation allows, then delegate as much as possible.
When you can't delegate, then dive in! In today's world, you can learn how to do lots of things by video tutorials available for free on the internet. There's also an old-fashioned solution called asking someone for help! This isn't a sign of weakness, but instead of a determined and curious mind. If you aren't willing to do what it takes to move yourself forward, then re-assess your dream, or get rid of the self-sabotage!
You can make a new start on any given day. It doesn't have to be a special occasion to hit the re-set button on your life. So, what are you waiting for? Get started today!
Happy dreaming my friends!!!!
Dr. April Darley is an expert at resolving stuck patterns of behavior through Neuro-Emotional Technique (N.E.T.). By identifying self-sabotaging behaviors, she can help you regain confidence, improve relationships, remove blocks to health, wealth and success in any area of your life.