This weekend kicks off the Holiday Season with Yule followed by Hanukkah, Christmas, Kwanzaa, Boxing Day, and New Years.
Whew!! That's a whirlwind of activity!
So, how's an Empath supposed to stay sane and healthy with all this activity?
Here are a few tips and tricks that I use when I'm heading into situations which take me out of my comfort zone.
1) Set your intentions for success.
When it comes to manifesting, it's important to focus on what you want and stay away from thinking about what you don't want. That's easier said than done, I know! However, if you're visiting friends or family where you've had bad experiences in the past, then you've been conditioned to expect or fear a similar negative response for future gatherings. This is the very thing that needs to be released.
When I know I have a situation or event coming up that makes me nervous, I start laying the groundwork as soon as possible to manifest a good outcome. First, I start working on myself and releasing any fear or negative beliefs about things I think may happen. Then, I start visualizing positive outcomes for socializing, interactions with family or friends etc. I keep replaying these "mind movies" in my head several times a day. I don't just focus on the images, but on the feelings I want to be there in those interactions as well. I can't tell you how helpful this technique has been for me in the past! Even if things don't turn out exactly as I've imagined, I've conditioned my brain to look for and expect positive outcomes.
2) Bring along some things that make you feel good.
If you're traveling to see loved ones over the Holidays, then it's important to bring some things with you that make you feel safe and comfortable. The Survival Brain (which is responsible for your fight or flight anxiety) gets ramped up when you're out of your comfort zone or familiar surroundings. It immediately goes on alert looking for potential threats to react to in an effort to keep you safe. Unfortunately, it generally does the opposite.
There are little things I often tuck in my suitcase that don't take up much room, but still relax me when I need it. Candles, essential oils, sage, books, cozy clothes and meditation apps are some of my go-to essentials. I also like to wake up and go to bed at my normal times if possible to reduce my body's stress. Plus, I take nervous system or immune support to help me handle any extra stress due to my surroundings or because of travel.
3) Put yourself in a time-out when you need it.
As an Empath, I can only take such much interaction before I need to escape and recharge. Normally, we think of "time-outs" as a punishment for doing something wrong. However, a self-imposed time-out is really just a necessary self-care break. They don't have to last very long, but take them when you can. For me, I would go outside and take a walk, find a quiet place to read a book for a while, take a nap, or even a bath. Don't feel bad for taking them, and take as many as you need to re-charge!
Bonus tip: Don't forget to do frequent grounding, shielding, and cleansing to keep your energy flowing and healthy. If you don't know how to do this, then check out my book available on Amazon HERE. It makes a great Holiday gift!!!
Dr. April Darley is an expert at resolving stuck patterns of behavior through Neuro-Emotional Technique (N.E.T.). By identifying self-sabotaging behaviors, she can help you regain confidence, improve relationships, remove blocks to health, wealth and success in any area of your life.